Behind the seductive veneer, he houses a huge secret that can easily go undetected by single moms new to the dating scene: He only wears flip-flops.
A dozen identical pairs are lined up by the front door of his "minimalist" bachelor pad.
Single Mom Souvenir: This guy reminds you that there is a sexy, passionate beast living inside you, and prompts a much-needed lingerie makeover. In his spare time, he takes ballroom dance lessons and reads books about ballroom dancing, which you try to feign interest in but it's just not there. He's been married a few times, traveled the world and is a successful entrepreneur with a vintage motorcycle.
A loner, he shows up at your door at the first sign of a text from you, yet is man enough to stand in the shadows when you cry over his former BFF, a.k.a. His poems have taught him that heartbreak is temporary. European with a penchant for scarves (even in summer), he stands up when you leave the table at a restaurant and takes you places you long dreamed of going -- Milan, Buenos Aires, Prague -- but never with your kids.
He's quiet and shy, but that's OK because you're plenty crazy for both of you.
Steady text-streaming while each of you carpools kids around town leads to formal date nights that involve hiring sitters and end with late-night conversations while lying on the grass in his backyard.
Together, you confess all of your past mistakes and decide to go for it one more time.
Meaningless and erroneous conversations about books and architecture enjoyed while he strums his guitar leave you swooning.
Recognized by experienced moms as the universal signal that he can't commit to anything, you decide instead to write it off as "hipster." While he's chatting with you at an out-of-the-way cafe he has texts flying in from ladies just like you in multiple parts of the country (he's a midnight Internet surfer, after all).
When he confesses he's moving to Oregon to live with a molecular gastronomist he fell in love with via email, you're more devastated than when you got divorced. The Smart and Sweet Rebound When the douchebag leaves you heartbroken and addicted to drive-thru meals, you find solace in -- gulp -- his best friend, an aspiring poet who makes a living writing book jacket copy.
Several phone calls point to yes, so you agree to meet at a trendy restaurant.
He unabashedly gushes over how beautiful you are from the first moment he sees you and he hasn't stopped since, so you're finally starting to believe him.