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Also, we are […] Read more Dear Sara: When I’m dating, I really struggle with how to answer questions about my (lack of) relationship history.

Within a few dates, the question about past relationships inevitably comes up, and I never know how to answer this.

At most, it is a reliable source of advice for women who want to improve their chances with the opposite sex.

While explaining her relationship with a guy she is interested in, a reader who recently wrote to me for advice reminded me of the difference between the typical male and female approach to being "friends with benefits": I guess we're friends with benefits because there's no commitment on both parts.

I want to be honest, but as someone in my 30s with little relationship history, I […] Read more Someone telling you that he or she is looking for a relationship isn’t the same thing as really and truly wanting one.

Anyone can utter the right words, but words often aren’t matched by behavior.

I also made a conscious choice that it was only purely physical with what happened between us (only twice by the way). I was, however, hoping that we could learn more about each other slowly and establish a good foundation before going to the next level. The simple fact is that men almost never fall in love this way, despite what you saw in the fictional movie (emphasis on fictional), No Strings Attached.

But I liked his company and the flowing conversations we had. The woman quoted above might not have had any illusions about the fact that the relationship was purely sexual, but I suspect she did have some illusions about just how unlikely it was that her love interest would change his perspective on the relationship. It has been my experience - both personal and vicarious - that the vast majority of women view a casual sexual relationship as a potential stepping stone towards a relationship.

So before you jump at the opportunity to "get closer" to the man you want by making things sexual, recognize that his willingness to engage in a casual sexual relationship with you is actually a step away from commitment, not a step towards it.(If this sounds familiar, it is probably because it is almost identical to the difference between the male and female perspectives on moving in together before marriage.) Any man who is mildly observant of the opposite sex will have a hunch in the back of his mind that this kind of relationship is bound to explode eventually.But he isn't going to turn down all of the commitment-free sex he'll get in the meantime just because of some "feeling." Men don't trust feelings the way women do. If it is called "no-strings-attached" relationship, that's exactly how he treats it, no matter how much cuddling and hanging out is involved.I've dated countless women and it has always amazed me how little they know about men.If nothing else, this blog is an outlet for voicing my astonishment at the typical female's ignorance of the male mindset.

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