Perceived value in any dating situation comes from a large part of scarcity – someone doing exactly what everybody else is doing does not set himself/herself apart nor create interest.
In Italy where men and women embrace with ease at each meeting, foreign girls can be seen as fair game by young Italian males, often frustrated by long, traditional courtships with their Italian girlfriends.
In Britain, flirting tends to be alcohol-fuelled to cover up fears of intimacy and rejection; although, as dating expert Jean-Baptiste Trannoy reminds us of the reference 'Dutch courage', it would be fair to say that alcohol-induced flirting is common in many parts of the world.
"The British male is either reticent, tongue-tied and awkward, or boorish and crass, and he usually consumes too much alcohol.
The French are always trying to seduce everyone — in this second sense of the word — and this can mean that men and women often flirt in a casual, good-natured way without a sexual proposition necessarily behind it.
Of course, the tricky part for foreigners is learning to tell the difference.
But it's also important to be aware of ongoing debates about street harassment in French cities, says Jean-Baptiste, and such approaches should be done in a tactful manner; cat-calling should not be confused for flirting. It can mean persuading someone to go to bed with you, yes, but it is also used more generally in the sense of charming other people of either sex.Approaching or complimenting a stranger in the street can also reap the same reaction in the Netherlands, although in Jean-Baptiste's experience doing so in Amsterdam has been well received and resulted in a date more often than not, at least more so than in other countries he has visited.Cantina, a 30-something American woman working for an international organisation in The Hague with three Dutch boyfriends under her belt, said: "In the Netherlands you have eye contact and approach men, they don't approach you.Expatica makes every effort to ensure its articles are as comprehensive, accurate and up-to-date as possible, but we're also grateful for any help!(If you want to contact Expatica for any other reason, please follow the instructions on this website's contact page.) The details you provide on this page will not be used to send any unsolicited e-mail, and will not be sold to a third party.